Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 years
The actor and former President Obama adviser Kal Penn has come out as gay, and revealed that he’s engaged to be married.
The 44-year-old star, who rose to fame in the “Harold & Kumar” movies, opened up about his sexuality publicly for the first time ahead of Tuesday’s release of his new tell-all memoir, which is called “You Can’t Be Serious.”
Keep scrolling for a gallery of photos from Kal Penn’s career
In an interview with People magazine, published Sunday, Penn said that he is engaged to Josh, his partner of 11 years. He also told the publication that he felt “very supported” when he came out to his loved ones.
Recalling the conversations, Penn said: “I shared things with my parents and close friends first. I know this sounds jokey, but it’s true: When you’ve already told your Indian parents and the South Asian community that you intend to be an actor for a living, really any conversations that come after that are super easy.”
He continued: “They’re just like, ‘Yeah, okay.’ … That’s a wonderful thing. I know everybody has different experiences with that and so I definitely feel very fortunate.”
Penn told People that while he was excited to share details of his long-term relationship with readers, Josh and other close family members “don’t love attention and shy away from the limelight.”
He added that he discovered his sexuality relatively late in life. Speaking of the couple’s wedding plans, Penn said he wants a big Indian wedding but his partner would prefer a “quick 20-minute thing with our families and that’s it.” The actor said the pair would have to “meet halfway in the middle.”
In addition to the “Harold & Kumar” franchise, Penn’s acting credits also include appearing in “House,” “Designated Survivor,” “How I Met Your Mother” and “The Big Bang Theory.”
In 2009, he took a hiatus from acting to serve in the President Barack Obama’s administration as part of the White House Office of Public Liaison, dealing with Asian American and Pacific Islander communities and the arts community.
Last year he told CNN’s Becky Anderson about his mission to get young Americans to vote.
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsSOPHIE GIRAUD
Kal Penn (left) as Kumar and John Cho (right) as Harold in New Line Cinema's comedy, "Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle." (AP Photo/Sophie Giraud)
SOPHIE GIRAUDKal Penn (left) as Kumar and John Cho (right) as Harold in New Line Cinema's comedy, "Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle." (AP Photo/Sophie Giraud)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsTony Dejak
Actor Kal Penn talks with students about Democratic presidential hopeful Barack Obama at Cleveland State University, Wednesday, Feb. 20, 2008, in Cleveland. Obama, whose campaign has enjoyed strong support among young voters, planned to drive up their turnout for a contest where the margin of victory might be more important than who wins. Obama, only four years removed from the Illinois state Senate, dispatched high-wattage celebrities to attract young voters to his effort. (AP Photo/Tony Dejak)
Tony DejakActor Kal Penn talks with students about Democratic presidential hopeful Barack Obama at Cleveland State University, Wednesday, Feb. 20, 2008, in Cleveland. Obama, whose campaign has enjoyed strong support among young voters, planned to drive up their turnout for a contest where the margin of victory might be more important than who wins. Obama, only four years removed from the Illinois state Senate, dispatched high-wattage celebrities to attract young voters to his effort. (AP Photo/Tony Dejak)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsJack Plunkett
Actors Kal Penn, right, and John Cho from "Harold & Kumar Escape from Guantanamo Bay" participate in a panel discussion at the SXSW Film Festival in Austin, Texas on Sunday, March 9, 2008. (AP Photo/Jack Plunkett)
Jack PlunkettActors Kal Penn, right, and John Cho from "Harold & Kumar Escape from Guantanamo Bay" participate in a panel discussion at the SXSW Film Festival in Austin, Texas on Sunday, March 9, 2008. (AP Photo/Jack Plunkett)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsJason DeCrow
Actors Neil Patrick Harris, left, and Kal Penn appear onstage during MTV's "Total Request Live" at the MTV Times Square Studios Monday, April 21, 2008 in New York. (AP Photo/Jason DeCrow)
Jason DeCrowActors Neil Patrick Harris, left, and Kal Penn appear onstage during MTV's "Total Request Live" at the MTV Times Square Studios Monday, April 21, 2008 in New York. (AP Photo/Jason DeCrow)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsMark J. Terrill
Kal Penn poses in front of a movie poster as he arrives at the Los Angeles premiere of the film "Harold & Kumar: Escape from Guantanamo Bay", Thursday, April 17, 2008. (AP Photo/Mark J. Terrill)
Mark J. TerrillKal Penn poses in front of a movie poster as he arrives at the Los Angeles premiere of the film "Harold & Kumar: Escape from Guantanamo Bay", Thursday, April 17, 2008. (AP Photo/Mark J. Terrill)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsChris Pizzello
Actors John Cho, left, and Kal Penn host the Spike TV "Guys Choice" awards in Culver City, Calif., Friday, May 30, 2008. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello)
Chris PizzelloActors John Cho, left, and Kal Penn host the Spike TV "Guys Choice" awards in Culver City, Calif., Friday, May 30, 2008. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsMatt Sayles
Actor Kal Penn, right, works as a floor whip at the Democratic National Convention in Denver, Monday, Aug. 25, 2008. (AP Photo/Matt Sayles)
Matt SaylesActor Kal Penn, right, works as a floor whip at the Democratic National Convention in Denver, Monday, Aug. 25, 2008. (AP Photo/Matt Sayles)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsCharles Dharapak
Actor Kal Penn, left, who has joined the White House as associate director in the Office of Public Liaison, stands with Michael Strautmanis, Assistant to the President for Intergovernmental Relations and Public Liaison, center, and senior adviser Valerie Jarrett, at the White House Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, Monday, April 13, 2009. (AP Photo/Charles Dharapak)
Charles DharapakActor Kal Penn, left, who has joined the White House as associate director in the Office of Public Liaison, stands with Michael Strautmanis, Assistant to the President for Intergovernmental Relations and Public Liaison, center, and senior adviser Valerie Jarrett, at the White House Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, Monday, April 13, 2009. (AP Photo/Charles Dharapak)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsJeff Christensen
Actor Kal Penn speaks during "We Are One: Opening Inaugural Celebration at the Lincoln Memorial" in Washington, Sunday, Jan. 18, 2009. (AP Photo/Jeff Christensen)
Jeff ChristensenActor Kal Penn speaks during "We Are One: Opening Inaugural Celebration at the Lincoln Memorial" in Washington, Sunday, Jan. 18, 2009. (AP Photo/Jeff Christensen)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsCharles Dharapak
Actor Kalpen Suresh Modi, best known by his stage name Kal Penn, who is Associate Director of the White House Office of Public Engagement, is seen in front of the White House in Washington, Thursday, March 4, 2010. (AP Photo/Charles Dharapak)
Charles DharapakActor Kalpen Suresh Modi, best known by his stage name Kal Penn, who is Associate Director of the White House Office of Public Engagement, is seen in front of the White House in Washington, Thursday, March 4, 2010. (AP Photo/Charles Dharapak)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsCathleen Allison
Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid talks with actor Kal Penn during a campaign stop on the University of Nevada, Reno campus in Reno, Nev., on Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Cathleen Allison)aa
Cathleen AllisonSenate Majority Leader Harry Reid talks with actor Kal Penn during a campaign stop on the University of Nevada, Reno campus in Reno, Nev., on Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Cathleen Allison)aa
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsMatt Sayles
Actor Kal Penn poses for a photo while filming advertisement for the "Rayman Origins" video game in Los Angeles, Tuesday, Oct. 11, 2011. (AP Photo/Matt Sayles)
Matt SaylesActor Kal Penn poses for a photo while filming advertisement for the "Rayman Origins" video game in Los Angeles, Tuesday, Oct. 11, 2011. (AP Photo/Matt Sayles)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsChris Pizzello
Actors John Cho, left, and Kal Penn, right, flank voice artist June Foray as she accepts the Comic-Con Icon award at the 2011 Scream Awards, Saturday, Oct. 15, 2011, in Los Angeles. The award show is dedicated to the horror, science fiction and fantasy genres of feature films, television and comic books. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello)
Chris PizzelloActors John Cho, left, and Kal Penn, right, flank voice artist June Foray as she accepts the Comic-Con Icon award at the 2011 Scream Awards, Saturday, Oct. 15, 2011, in Los Angeles. The award show is dedicated to the horror, science fiction and fantasy genres of feature films, television and comic books. (AP Photo/Chris Pizzello)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsJ. Scott Applewhite
Actor Kal Penn addresses the Democratic National Convention in Charlotte, N.C., on Tuesday, Sept. 4, 2012. (AP Photo/J. Scott Applewhite)
J. Scott ApplewhiteActor Kal Penn addresses the Democratic National Convention in Charlotte, N.C., on Tuesday, Sept. 4, 2012. (AP Photo/J. Scott Applewhite)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsMatt Sayles
FILE - In this Sept. 10, 2013, file photo, Kal Penn arrives at CBS's 1st National TV Dinner Night at the CBS Radford Studios in Los Angeles. Penn raised more than $500,000 for Syrian refugees after launching an online fundraiser on Saturday, Jan. 28, 2017. (Photo by Matt Sayles /Invision/AP, File)
Matt SaylesFILE - In this Sept. 10, 2013, file photo, Kal Penn arrives at CBS's 1st National TV Dinner Night at the CBS Radford Studios in Los Angeles. Penn raised more than $500,000 for Syrian refugees after launching an online fundraiser on Saturday, Jan. 28, 2017. (Photo by Matt Sayles /Invision/AP, File)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsRichard Shotwell
Kal Penn speaks on stage at the National Geographic Channel 2015 Winter TCA on Wednesday, Jan. 7, 2015, in Pasadena, Calif. (Photo by Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP)
Richard ShotwellKal Penn speaks on stage at the National Geographic Channel 2015 Winter TCA on Wednesday, Jan. 7, 2015, in Pasadena, Calif. (Photo by Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsCraig Ruttle
From left, actors and co-hosts Kal Penn, Rachel Brosnahan, and Robert De Niro take the stage during the 2018 Global Citizen Festival Saturday, Sept. 29, 2018, in New York. (AP Photo/Craig Ruttle)
Craig RuttleFrom left, actors and co-hosts Kal Penn, Rachel Brosnahan, and Robert De Niro take the stage during the 2018 Global Citizen Festival Saturday, Sept. 29, 2018, in New York. (AP Photo/Craig Ruttle)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsEvan Agostini
FILE - Kal Penn attends the Glamour Women of the Year Awards in New York on Nov. 11, 2019. Penn is hoping to reach Millennial and Gen Z voters with a new half-hour TV show on Freeform, “Kal Penn Approves This Message,” premiering Tuesday, Sept, 22. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP, File)
Evan AgostiniFILE - Kal Penn attends the Glamour Women of the Year Awards in New York on Nov. 11, 2019. Penn is hoping to reach Millennial and Gen Z voters with a new half-hour TV show on Freeform, “Kal Penn Approves This Message,” premiering Tuesday, Sept, 22. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP, File)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsEvan Agostini
Kal Penn, from the cast of "Sunnyside," attends the NBC 2019/2020 Upfront at The Four Seasons New York on Monday, May 13, 2019. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP)
Evan AgostiniKal Penn, from the cast of "Sunnyside," attends the NBC 2019/2020 Upfront at The Four Seasons New York on Monday, May 13, 2019. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP)
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Kal Penn comes out as gay, reveals he’s engaged to partner of 11 yearsStefan Jeremiah
Actor Kal Penn speaks on stage at an early vote rally at Weequahic Park, Saturday, Oct. 23, 2021, in Newark, N.J. (AP Photo/Stefan Jeremiah)
Stefan JeremiahActor Kal Penn speaks on stage at an early vote rally at Weequahic Park, Saturday, Oct. 23, 2021, in Newark, N.J. (AP Photo/Stefan Jeremiah)